by Tammi C. Walker
I always told myself I am a weirdo or a little different. At first I did not understand it. But I could not help but notice at work, church, or different places, I would isolate myself or feel so alone. I just did not fit in. But I realized that gossiping and talking about others did not fit me well. It does not feel comfortable for me. I am not saying that I don't participate in it and I know this is not right. But it does not serve me well and it is not what I strive to do. I feel that is not using my time on earth wisely. I could be doing so many other great things. Sometimes silence is best when there is nothing good to say about a person. But what I am getting at here is that I am a HSP. I am a highly sensitive person. I can tune into someone and pick up on vibes very easily. I am quiet at times but I am always watching everything around me. Growing up as a child, I was part of the gifted program. I could read on a very high level at a young age. However, I was never any good in math. I just threw that in because that is very amusing to me and almost funny. But I always had a deep love for people. To this day I still do. Once I became 36 years old, it is like God opened my eyes. I had an epiphany, an awakening, a rebirth. Things became clearer for me. These are some of the things I learned:
- No one on this earth is responsible for the happiness of Tammi C. Walker but Tammi C. Walker.
- No matter how big your house is, how many fancy cars you drive, how many fancy purses you own, you still may not be happy. These are just material things nothing more and nothing less.
- Never ever under any circumstances compare yourself with others. You are who you are and God made you this way. Be happy about it and embrace the beauty you bring to this world.
- Dream the impossible dream and execute it. Sometimes speaking on your dreams and plans is not necessary. Just go for it.
- Do not seek approval from friends about what you should do with your life. No one can save you. If you are in a relationship, take your concerns to your mate. Your friends will give you advice that they won't even take or execute.
- Do not be ashamed to solicit help when drowning, down in the dumps and depressed. When I say help I am referring to some form of therapy, or the help of a clergyman, pastor, teacher.
- Give yourself a break. Sometimes we are simply too hard on ourselves. Relax and lighten up. Go for a massage, a walk in the park, spend time with some children and babies, pet an animal. Take a couple of days off work and love yourself!
- Mind your own business. We talk too much at times. Always telling people what they need to do. What can you do in your own back yard. I am really leery of telling my friends and family what to do. It doesn't sound good and it doesn't feel good to them. Who am I to tell them what to do? Everyone figures things out in their own timing. My way is not your way and vice versa.
- True love does exists. Having Eddy in my life taught me a lot about love and sticking it out when the going gets tough. I had cancer twice and he has been so patient with me. It has not been easy but he is always calm and patient. I am blown away by his composure. I often think if it was the other way around how would I have been?
- Try something different! Gosh, some of my best days were when I did something new. Taking the personal training course was something else. Learning the material and studying the body structure was very complex. But I am so glad I did it. I was at my best years ago in the studio singing songs. I loved taking voice lessons, guitar lessons, as well as an acting class. Very recently I was in a stage production for cancer survivors. This is when I am at my best. Now for you, go and do something different. Dare to dream. Who cares about the outcome! You will feel liberated afterwards.
- Be ye grateful. This is the number one rule for life. We are very rich. I look around my home now. It is nicely decorated. I look down at my legs, I have two feet, I have hands to type with, I have big eyes to see. I have food stacked in my refrigerator and freezer. I just made a delicious pot of coffee, in my closets I have clothes and coats. I have clothes in storage bins. I have too much stuff. Not to mention all the jewelry and perfume my beautiful late Mother gave to me. That is material but what about spiritually? I have everything I need. Sometimes I sit and I cry. I cry because I am so blessed. I know it is because of God's mercy towards me that gave me life and joy. I searched for peace for many years and it is here. Be grateful. Someone else wishes they were in your shoes.
- I have to pray. When I do not pray, when I do not read my daily word, the Bible, or journal, things get very chaotic for me. I am also in a negative place or I become crabby. When I pray and journal and read positive words and meditate, I am at my all time best. Have a routine and stick to it. Even at work, have it on your desk or me I have the apps on my phone and when I take a washroom break I pull it out and read it. It keeps me centered, focused and positive.
- Controlling my emotions. I had to learn this one the hard way. I use to go off on people. In particular, guys I dated. When things did not go my way, you were getting told off. That way don't work. I am a cool cucumber now. (Most of the time). Sometimes handling things with class and delicately is better than going off. It takes great restraint and practice. I count to 10 if I feel myself about to go off or I walk away. We have enough unstable people in this world. Keep your cool because you are better than that.
- Never too busy. I am a life coach, I work a 9-5, I am a girlfriend, I am a sister, I am an Aunt of little ones, I am a friend, I am a cancer survivor. My plate is very full. I have several doctor and medical appointments I must tend to. I try to squeeze in exercise, fun and relaxation. There are some elderly loved ones that I must check in on. I have a wide array of friends. I can go on and on. I am never too busy to help someone and the day I say I am, I need to get socked in the mouth. We make time for those we love. I am not running an empire where I can't pause for the cause. I really hate hearing folks say that because it is an excuse. We can spend tons of hours watching tv. I know I can watch tv too because I love the new show Empire!
- No excuses. As a life coach, what breaks my heart is when I have a client and I try to help them and every time I make a suggestion, I get a rebuttal. This is a waste of my time and theirs. Do not make excuses, turn over every stone. Do your best to have the best life you can have. If you want to make excuses then keep it to yourself. No need to burden others.
I can go on and on and on with this list. It is near and dear to my heart. I want the best for you. I believe in you. Go for it. Dare to be different and have the life you love.
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Tammi C. Walker
Life Coach and friend
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